Shadow and Persona

So, lately I've been really downtrodden. I sought help in my bestfriend who is actually a psychology major and she told me how sometimes people will not understand you. You, yourself can't understand yourself. She told me about Shadow and Persona by Carl Jung. She told me that there's more to us than this facade that we built for people to see. Here it goes, she said:

• Persona is the face that we let the society see. This is the mask we wear to hide what's within us and what's not to love about us. This is what society expects from us. 
• While, Shadow is the inner you. The ugly truth about you. The one that you keep on hiding and trying to suppress because you don't like it and you know that people won't like it too. 

So, after knowing what it means. My bestfriend told me how these two should be intertwined. The gap between the two should not be that big or else you create a whole new you. That's when you realize that you don't know who you really are and your personality is unstable which makes me think about people in general. How sometimes I don't really understand them. How sometimes a person can make me mad or can break me. It all comes down with our personality. How our shadows sometimes is too strong or how our persona is too fake.

That being said I realize one thing. I cannot fix people's personality or even their shadows but I can fix mine. I shouldn't be so eager to change people around me or to let them see what I see when they have their own vision. I cannot just force them to like things that I like or even decide things for me.

My bestfriend told me that I have a strong personality and people may not take it lightly because of how I affect them. She told me how she loves that thing about me and I should not give it up for someone or something just because I am not accepted. She told me how we should all stay true to ourselves and don't let better judgement gets the best of us.

After talking to her it made me think of how shadow may be our demons but these demons are ours. This is our weakness and this is our faults. We own them and we may not be proud of it but we shouldn't let it hinder us from the world-- from what it could possibly give us. What I am trying to say is fuck it all up, make amends, and live the life that you want to live in. No one will  count your mistakes or even make a list of what is wrong to you. Just give in to what you think is right and let things go. If you're wrong then maybe you are but the doesn't mean it's really wrong. If you're right but it feels wrong do what you have to do. I trust in you.